Butt Kissing

I remember when I was a teenager and I upset my Mom (really didn't care if I upset my Dad)....all I did was kiss her butt until she took me back into her graces again.

Oh the circle of life is now complete.

I am getting my butt kissed beyond belief (and it's really not working).

We went to his marching band competition last night (which they got Gold, so they will be going onto regionals, then hopefully onto State) and I did not go back to the buses, which I always do, afterwards. WE LEFT!!

Side note here.....THAT WAS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO DO IN MY LIFE, felt like I was walking away from my child.

He called me while we were eating to tell me that they came in second place and their score. I said, "you guys did really well, very proud of you all of you!" He was quiet for a bit, then said, "you guys came?" "Sure did", I said. "Why didn't you come and see me afterwards?", the boy who is kissing butt says. I said, "dunno". He who kisses butt says, "thanks so much for coming Mom, I appreciate it so much". (I had to stifle a giggle here) I ended the call by saying, "see you at school".
Today he has been downstairs all day and doing things for me. I just have to say...I quite enjoy this and think he will remain on my poop list for an undetermined amount of time. :)

Thanks Jen for the back up! His Moms involvement in his life has come to an end for awhile. We'll also be having a conversation once we are alone together.

That's him on the end, Bass 5.

Children

Why is it that as parents that we do everything for our children and in return we get nothing but rudeness? We take my oldest son out to dinner and we are talking about one of his friends. He tells me about his friends parents never tell him how they are proud of the many things he does in his life. My son found that sad, which I agreed. I asked him, "You know that I am very proud of you, right?". He says, "Yes Mom I do know that". So flash forward to Walmart 30 mintues later....I am buying him items to take with him to marching band tomorrow and itmes for his fire up buddy too. I am trying to make suggestions for things to buy for his fire up buddy, which he is knocking down the ideas and me for suggesting them. We are now standing in the checkout line, where we start a converstation, where he goes on to tell me that he is embarressed of me. I said, "I embarress you?". He says"YOU embaress me! Embaress ME!" Which I in turn look at him and say ok, "then you can check out yourself because I don't want to stand next to YOU and EMBARESS YOU!" I then go on to say later on...."You know I bet your friend, who has parents who never tell him they are proud of him, doesn't talk to his parents the way you did to me. Maybe thats they whole key, withdraw from your children, don't extend yourself and they will not talk to you with disrespect."
He so totally hurt my feelings! I do all that I can for him, every weekend I go to the his compeitions, pick him up everyday at 5 from band practice, bring him drinks during practice, and volunteer for different functions during this time too.
This is what I want to know.....at what point are you too nice, put yourself out too much and provide to much? When do you say I have to be mean and put up my guard to protect myself and to also teach him a lesson? Also, is this motherly? Right now I feel that I have to pull myself away from him and his life, to protect myself from becoming bitter towards him. I really think he is a spoiled child. It's time for a change! I am going to have to sleep on this tonight, process this and come back.