Why is it that as parents that we do everything for our children and in return we get nothing but rudeness? We take my oldest son out to dinner and we are talking about one of his friends. He tells me about his friends parents never tell him how they are proud of the many things he does in his life. My son found that sad, which I agreed. I asked him, "You know that I am very proud of you, right?". He says, "Yes Mom I do know that". So flash forward to Walmart 30 mintues later....I am buying him items to take with him to marching band tomorrow and itmes for his fire up buddy too. I am trying to make suggestions for things to buy for his fire up buddy, which he is knocking down the ideas and me for suggesting them. We are now standing in the checkout line, where we start a converstation, where he goes on to tell me that he is embarressed of me. I said, "I embarress you?". He says"YOU embaress me! Embaress ME!" Which I in turn look at him and say ok, "then you can check out yourself because I don't want to stand next to YOU and EMBARESS YOU!" I then go on to say later on...."You know I bet your friend, who has parents who never tell him they are proud of him, doesn't talk to his parents the way you did to me. Maybe thats they whole key, withdraw from your children, don't extend yourself and they will not talk to you with disrespect."
He so totally hurt my feelings! I do all that I can for him, every weekend I go to the his compeitions, pick him up everyday at 5 from band practice, bring him drinks during practice, and volunteer for different functions during this time too.
This is what I want to know.....at what point are you too nice, put yourself out too much and provide to much? When do you say I have to be mean and put up my guard to protect myself and to also teach him a lesson? Also, is this motherly? Right now I feel that I have to pull myself away from him and his life, to protect myself from becoming bitter towards him. I really think he is a spoiled child. It's time for a change! I am going to have to sleep on this tonight, process this and come back.
Friday, September 28, 2007
Children
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Let me tell you honey.... you are right to let him know that what he said bothered you. That you aren't his door mat. Tell him that if that is how he feels, that is fine. Stop picking him up, taking him the treats, etc. Tell him that if that is the case, then he may live the life of his friend.... alone.
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Love the blog. You changed it! Sorry, had to have Jen tell me who had made comments on my blog. Don't worry she reprimanded me plenty. I opened my mind to worldly possibilities, not someone so close in my neighborhood. Glad to have you around again! I added you to my blogroll so that I can check you out more. Hope that is okay!
Loved the picture of Emma.
If you are talking about the blog page, I believe there is a link to the site at the bottom of the page. Now...you need to tell me how to get that dang clock on my screen...I think I have pasted it in 3 different places and when I go to my blog page it doesnt show up.
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